SCIENCE STUDY: ‘Cat Lady, This is the BEST WAY to PET Your CAT’

You ever been sitting with your cat and petting him nicely only to have him bite or swat at you? If you have, it’s not because your cat doesn’t like you, it just means that somehow you weren’t petting him correctly.


If you want to stop your cat from swatting at you, the first thing you need to do is understand a bit more about your cat’s ancestors.

Before cats were humans loved companions, they were simply used for pest control. It was about 4000 years ago, shortly after dogs became domesticated that people started to realize what great companions cats could be.

Your cat’s ancestors are the African wild cats, although cats have evolved over time their brains are still wired like a wild cat, it’s something evolution and breeding just couldn’t get rid of.

Wild cats live solitary lives. You ever notice your cat likes to spend more time alone than with you? Well, it’s because your cat gets this from his ancestors.

However African wild cats, they don’t communicate with one another directly, they’re not like pack animals such as dogs, they’ll often use visual and chemical messages to communicate with each other.

Your cat likely is not inherited these complex skills, but he did inherit the desire to spend time alone.


Humans are social creatures, we desire interaction and affection, from the moment were born, we want to be held and crave human contact and that’s why we want to be so affectionate to our cats.

They are adorable, they have that cute little face and the soft fur.. I mean really, who doesn’t love a kittens tiny little nose.. right! Oh, it makes you want to scoop up your cat, cuddle him and squeeze him and just hug him to death.

Well, while this behavior it makes you happy, it can be overwhelming for your cat. If you understand what your cat wants and expects and abide by that, your cat will enjoy the time you spend together.

If your cat is going to develop a social skill and enjoy regular human interaction, you need to start early. If you want your kitten to be cuddly when it gets older, you’ll need daily human interaction and cuddling between the ages of two and seven weeks old.

That’ll help your kitten and get accustomed to being held, you’ll want to spend time with you when he gets older, now that you know a bit more about your cat and your cat’s ancestors. Let’s learn the proper way to pet your cat.

If you want to pet your cat for an extended period of time, you’ll have to allow him to initiate it when you snuggle, that’ll take some self-control because your cat is so cute.


You’d want to pet him on your schedule, I understand that, and the best place to pet a cat is at the base of the ears under his chin and around his cheeks.

Your cat will be prefer being petted in these areas rather than his belly back, and the base of his tail. These are spots that dogs prefer to be pet.

If your cat is enjoying this attention, he’ll let you know by showing some telltale signs, such as initiating more contact by holding their tail upright, purring and kneading you with their front paws, waving their tail gently in the air from side to side, relaxed posture and facial expression, pricked ears pointing forward and gently nudging you while you’re stroking him.

Now your cat will give you signs that he is enjoying what you’re doing, but he’ll also give you signs he doesn’t like what you’re doing, such as shifting or turning its head away, not purring, exaggerated facial expressions such as blinking, licking his nose or shaking his head, rapid short bursts of grooming, thrashing its tail, flattening his ears or biting or sweating your hand away with its paws.


The most important thing to remember when you’re petting your cat is to have some self-restraint. You need to try and not squeeze your cat, no matter how bad you want to, if you continue petting your cat in a wrong way, he’s going to avoid you.

If you want your cat’s favorite person to be you in the house, be sure to pet in the way he likes, not the way that you like.

Well, now that you know how to pet your cat, give it a try, make sure to let him come to you and when he does, head him correctly. If he’s getting cozy in your lap, you’re doing it right, and you’ve made a friend for life.